Breaking up with a loved can be one of the most stressful experiences of your life. Not to sound overly dramatic, but its a proven fact that the grief one goes through after a break up is similar to the grief one experiences after a loved one passes away. But what can you do do win your ex back? The fact is that most relationships CAN be saved... but there is definitely a right way and a VERY WRONG way to go about it. If you're not careful, you'll end up pushing your ex even further away. Let's go over what not to do as well as some tips on how to greatly increase your chances of a successful reunion with your ex.

10 Behaviors To Avoid

If you're feeling anxious and stressed about getting your ex back, then its a pretty good guess that you're acting anxious and stressed... and this is a sure way to drive your ex further away. It's human nature to resist when feeling pressured, and your ex is no different. You need to back off from behaving in any way that appears needy, desperate or pushy.

Are you doing any of the following? If so, please stop now!

1. Calling your ex constantly

2. Showing up where you ex is

3. Texting or emailing all the time

4. Apologizing for everything

5. Promising you'll change if only they will take you back

6. Saying "I love you" over and over

7. Arguing about the relationship

8. Trying to make your ex feel sorry for you

9. Trying to make your ex jealous

10. Writing love letter, sending gifts, flowers, etc.

I know that you're afraid of losing the one you love forever, but its exactly this fear that is going to make you behave in ways that are out of character for you. Remember, your ex knows you very well and can sense the slightest bit of neediness on your part. They will respond by putting up an emotional wall and be very resistant to your attempts to get back together.

What To Do Instead

You need to back off and give your ex some breathing room. Give them some time to miss you. How can they miss you if you're always bothering them?

Its ok to show your ex that you still care and are open to a reunion, but do it in a way that shows you're not going to chase after them. With the pressure gone your ex will be much more open to getting back together.

Do you see why this works? By backing off you're displaying confidence, inner strength and indpendence... and these are attractive qualities. Its the exact opposite of what you portray when you act desperate and needy and are constantly after them.

Stay strong and don't be tempted to slip back into your old desperate ways and drunk dial your ex at 3am. Keep yourself busy doing positive activities, working on yourself, reconnect with friends and family, etc. When you finally make contact with your ex again they will notice the positive changes and you'll be amazed at how differently they act towards you now.